my understanding of happiness

Name:陈慧 Number:2011138124 Class:1

Living in the fast paced world,lots of people are obsessed with material life.For them ,happiness means big house,luxury car and others’ envious eyes.Surely,money does something to happiness,for it can lead cozy life by avoiding suffering hunger and cold.But,for my part,happiness is far more than that.It is an art of love,gratification and fulfillment of self-worth.

Love does make great difference to happiness.People with love are able

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overcome

difficulties

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enjoy

long-term

happiness.Generally,love can be divided into several types-love among families lovers friends and even strangers.Love between families,for example, my parents who have lived together for almost twenty years still love each other though there inevitably have been quarrels and hardships.I can see their face lit up with blessedness when they come home after a whole day’s work.Friendship is also needed in our daily life.Sincere encouragement and advice from friends would help us through failure and keep us away from mistake.And most important is that a real friend will accompany us no matter what happened,which make us feel warm and sweet instead of being whelmed by loneliness. What’s more love can also exist between strangers,which mainly reflects in benefaction and help.As the saying goes“If you give others the

flowers,you yourself will keep the fragrance.”We would be happy in the process of helping others as well as when we heard “thank you”and knew what we have done make some difference to others’ life.In one word,we human is kind of social animal and love can bond us together and make us happy.

In addition,happiness can not live without gratification.Everyone should be aware of that he owns something precious ,such as health freedom families and so on,and then to treasure them.People tend to pursue what they lack ranging from money to fame and ignore what we already have,which is usually the source of agony.Imagine how terrible it is when our parents passed away and we had never spent a jolly day with them!With time going on,everything we possessed now would be lost at last.Then why not enjoy the present time instead of concerning endlessly about whether we can get all we want ?There is an old saying going like this“happy is he who is content.”I can not agree more.A man who is a miser like Eugenie Grandet can not be happy,because he is addicted to collecting money rather than try to enjoy life and care for people around him . In my opinion ,everyone can be happy as long as he is grateful for what he possessed and cherishes them.

However,to be content doesn’t mean to live unambitiously or to see

through the vanity of the world.Desire doesn’t collided with happiness.On the contrary,desire or dream to fulfill self-worth can,in some extent ,enhance our feeling of well-being.“I have a dream”Martin Luther King said.And It is the dream that make black men in America free at last,which contributed to the welfare of society.What’s more,like King,we should not keep our dream as daydreaming but make it concrete.Chris Gardner,the hero in the movie“The pursuit of happiness”,said“you gotta dream,you gotta protect it”How to protect it? I believe the answer is to convince ourselves and people around us by making it true.The image of ourselves standing on the medals podium could be just a empty illusion which only resulted in misery and disappointed when we failed to realize it. Dream make us happy only when we achieve it through our hard work and persistence.

But we ought to be conscious that the dream of self-worth doesn’t lie in vanity.For instance,Guo Meimei,one of the Chinese generation after 90s,was gaining heat from the public for boasting online about her lavish life.Guo’s desire to satisfy her vanity cast herself into prison.There is no fault to pursue money and fame which somehow bring comfortable life,but being indulged in them would make us barren spiritually,which could also lure us to dead-end path. So,it is essential to build correct social ethics and values when we seek happiness lied in the fulfillment

of dream.

As far as I can see,happiness is not such intangible thing that we can hardly manipulate.We can be happy only if we cherish what we have-love family health etc,and try to pursue what we want in an appropriate way.Although there unavoidably is hardship in life ,we ought to keep in mind that all the pain and suffering will fade when a new brighter day come at last.And all we can do is to transfer our attention to other valuable things which worth to treasure.